What Is Killing Your Marriage: 12 Habits Destroying Your Marriage

Many marriages are on the verge of collapsing.  And the sad aspect is that the common things we take for granted are the same thing killing or threatening marriages. 

In this article, we are going to discuss some of these parasites or attitudes that might be killing your marriage. 

Below are some of them:

Lack Of Trust: 

Marriage couple should learn the act of trust. You must learn to trust your spouse or husband. Mistrust could lead to serious problems in marriage. Though its very difficult especially when the person has lied to you before and found out because once trust is broken, it's very difficult to earn from your husband or marriage. Lies breeds mistrust so be careful.

Lack Of Respect: 

Respect they say is reciprocal. If you want your husband to respect you, respect him and if you want your wife to respect you, do same. Respect in marriage is one of the fundamentals that keeps the marriage alive so do not break the fundamentals with disrespect. 

Lack of respect can kill your marriage.

Unforgiveness: 

Marrying an unforgivable person is very dangerous because since we are all human beings, we will err at times but it takes someone with good heart to forgive and forget. What at all did your husband or wife do that you can't forgive? Try your best to forgive and save your marriage today. Your kids need you both around so don't be unforgivable. 

Keeping Secrets: 

Your husband or wife should not be kept in the darkness. Don't forget he or she is your better half. Meaning you are inseparable so do not keep secrets away from each other. What is the depth of that secret you are hiding? It will be better for you to tell your wife or husband about it before any third person does, else the results would not be nice. So learn to be open to your spouse or husband so that you two have nothing hidden from each other.

Arguments: Sometimes misunderstanding between marriage couple bring about heated arguments. These arguments are sometimes avoidable. No matter what the problem is about, you shouldn't argue with your wife or husband. Find a better way of dealing with the situation and let peace reign.

 

Lies: 

You should NEVER lie to your spouse or husband. Speak the truth as always. Lies can easily dismantle your marriage because it's very dangerous. Learn to speak the truth even if it hurts.

Poor Communication: Communication is very important in every aspect of life and it's same for marriage. If you are matured enough to get marriage then you should be matured enough to communicate with your spouse. Talk with your husband or wife. Don't be sitting in the couch and be pressing your phones. If your wife or husband go out and meet someone who makes him happy, they will gradually lose interest in you. So crack jokes and make your spouse laugh. Don't be too serious all the time, stress kills, free your mind.

Infedility: 

Infedility should never be tolerated in marriage. As a wife or husband, you shouldn't have any extra marital affair. There are some married people who flirt with other people. This is too bad so do not start what you can't finish. Your flirting might lead to separation between your wife or husband.

Extravagant Lifestyle: 

There's an expression that goes "cut your coat according to your size". Know how to spend and what to spend on. There are people who misuse money and make unnecessary expenses. If you like spending, partying, clubbing then I am afraid for you because your marriage might not last. Learn to live within your means and be free.

Laziness: 

Marriage is not for lazy people. You have responsibility as a wife or husband. As a husband, you are supposed to work to feed your family. Your wife has to take care of the domestic activities. But both of you can help to achieve this purpose together. I have seen some men who help their wives clean, wash, iron etc but but for some men, who are you to ask then for help? Put laziness aside and help your wife. Some women also are too lazy to even put food in their own mouth. Stop being lazy and save your marriage.

Hot temperament: 

Having a hot temperament can easily ruin your marriage. Before getting marriage, it's better to access yourself if you are fit for the course. If you have hot temperament, I suggest you see a psychologist for help before your marriage else it will end your marriage abruptly. Always keep your cool, when you see there's tension looming, just keep quiet. Try not to utter a word, let him or her rant, he will stop when tired. 

Too independent minded: 

Let me ask this question at this stage. Why do you get married if you want to be independent? Do you involve your spouse or husband in decisions making? If not, what is preventing you from doing so? Involve your spouse in your decision making and she will appreciate it. Sometimes you run out of ideas so involving your wife or husband is the best since they will bring different views and ideas. 

The above points mentioned I  the article are enough reasons to collapse or kill your marriage so take notes.

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